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Why would someone avoid eye contact?

Is it always because the person is not being honest? Or can there be other reasons like, he is shy or finds our gaze too intense?

Permalink Reply by Jen on March 7, 2009 at 7:01pm: Same here! I get way distracted by people's features & eyes when I look them in the eye while talking to them. I thought I was the only one who was like that - I know that is not normal! :); ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by shannen on February 24, 2009 at 4:42am: Because they don't want other people to read what's in their eyes..............
Those people that avoid eye contact are coward or simply they can't hide their emotions.........
And showing their eyes will reveal everything..............; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Sierra on March 2, 2009 at 1:45am: I used to love to make eye contact with people. It was my way of connecting, paying them respect, giving them my full attention, and giving love. But since I've lived in this area of Colorado that is very conservative, along with a lot of people who have settled here from the south, I've had some new experiences with it. Some times it feels like a power play instead of a giving of love. It used to feel like giving and receiving from someone, now I've noticed that it is used by some to 'take' energy, to rule over or have power over. In the animal kingdom, it is considered a power play, a challenge, Y& the polite thing to do is to look away in that kind of situation. I know that with my Golden Retriever, she will look away from my loving gaze and at first I thought it meant she didn't like me or something, but she is just being polite. So I do the same for her now that I know how she ticks.. I don't want her to feel challenged by me.. so I look at her and look away, then look at her and look away, because that's how SHE does it.

It makes me sad to think of all the friends I've left behind that shared my love for looking into each others' eyes & sharing that deep love, and it makes me sad that I've lost my ability to do this on some level. But it just isn't safe to engage eye to eye with just anyone. Some day I hope to be around some different types of people again.; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Emina on April 1, 2009 at 12:46pm: I get told I am initmidating and I have intense gaze... I have a guy I work with, whenever he talks to me he looks around me.. he looks at me for a few seconds, and then he looks away, its weird! He's definitely shy and there's nothing I can do about that. :) And if someone stares at me I tend to stare right back.. and even if i feel uncomfortable I usually do it just out of curiosity to see how far it will go.. I can sense people's vibes, and if I sense negative ones, I usually just ask them straight out what do they want.I don't mind a glance and a smile, I do the same, but staring really pisses me off!! I think it's rude!!!; ▶ Reply to This