WHY DO WOMEN CRY?

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Permalink Reply by forensiclove on January 30, 2009 at 12:17am

I agree, society doesn't let men weep openly the same way the "weaker" sex is alllowed to, men also are not permitted to ask for help as woman ar., i know this from Social work. For a man to ask for hlp b/c he is suffering from depression, fro example is far less likely than a womn. But men get just as depressed. i think there are a lot of sterotypes we need to conquer in this day and age. i'm bi-polar, if i let myself i could cry like an inconsolble child for hrs when under deress but i do not, when i cry it is a release of negative emotions, true, but i have my head help high with the grace of a woman, not like the child who cries b/c they did not get their way, or because they don't realize yet, that , no, life isn't fair, it never was. I feel for men, because crying releases stress, and onc you get it out you can move on. Instead men are expected to just deal, so a lot of the time they trun their emotions inward, and it ends up being anger, which is clinically known as a mixed emotion , and this results in depression. I hope one day we can all be sensive yet logical and maintain control yet allow ourselves catharis....i write to vent..in a blogg with only one person who knows me peronally, as well as out here.
these are my humble thoughts on your question on why we cry..but we do not all cry over spilt water, many of us are much stronger than that, and can endure a world of pain without shedding one tear..not that i recommend either extreme as balanced,


Forensic-Love


xoxo

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Permalink Reply by Melanie Warren on January 30, 2009 at 6:59pm

hi Bikram. Here's a movie to watch - "Definitely Maybe".. Suggested by my daughter.. Hope it might get you started.
Also "I Am Sam". This one worked for me.

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Permalink Reply by bikram on January 30, 2009 at 8:28pm

i am sam was a delight to watch.wish to see definitely maybe.will watch it at d earliest and tell u my reaction

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Permalink Reply by Allissa on February 24, 2009 at 9:13pm

hormones.

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Permalink Reply by Ciaran Bracken on June 20, 2009 at 8:01pm

Females cry because of an innate response to stress they are emotionally more unstable yet responsive to their emotions.
Males are a more protect and defense instinct which makes them less capable of expressing their emotions. Women are innately tuned to expression of their emotions as they are the ones who are geared to the expression of their maternal instincts of tending to their offspring as they male is the protective which is the more aggressive instinct less capable of breaking down which could lead to a sign of weakness which could give the sign that his protective capacity is called into question. Women are the primary function is to propagate the species as man is to cater for the needs of the females which are propagating the species. To cater for those needs and his own personal goal of catering for the offspring he has to have a defensive mechanism where he will protect his own interests and that of his offspring. Women instincts are less reactionary to that of the male so the response in times of stress would be to cry as the females role is not a defensive mechanism. That does not call into question that males are not capable of expressing their emotions or taking care of offspring but the more instinctive approach to these genders would be of that character. It is not to say that women are not capable of defense or producing amenities for society that would be against common sense.

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Permalink Reply by bikram on June 21, 2009 at 2:32am

olga
hey what is ESFJ?i cant remember wat it ws.
u may b right...i dnt really feel d nd to express my senstivites...i can keep it to myself....may b dats how a man reacts......
how do i react wen i m emotional? well i just suck it in. i dnt cry, i cant cry even wen i m alone...dnt know why.i dnt liv in a macho society...men r allowed to cry in my society...stilll....
tell u a secret,...u can call me a sadist for this...i lov to see a woman cry!!!! cryin makes a woman look so innocent n vulnerabl.n beautiful..u cant help fallin in for their tears....dats wy it always makes me wonder men who beat up their wives or gfs...how can they do it....for heavens sake how can u make d woman u love cry in pain inflicted by u?....

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Permalink Reply by bikram on June 21, 2009 at 8:21pm

i m engaged idealist....i dnt remember other grp i belong to..though i did take dat test too...
i love ur analysis...mayb i m attrctd to sufferin...hey i wud love if u can find few more thngs abt me...

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Permalink Reply by Felicitas Heyne on July 3, 2009 at 8:06am

Though I agree with what Olga wrote about the "F" letter, bikram as an EI actually has an F-preference and is therefore very sensitive and emotional. And the EI is extroverted as well which means he/she shows his/her feelings more openly and easier than introverted types. So I would deny a connection between bikram's personality type and the missing tears at this point. Must be other reasons for this - whichever.

The question that comes to my mind: you wrote that you cried the last time when you were 15, bikram. What was the reason for it then? (if you want to tell, don't want to be too curious, just wondering!)

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Permalink Reply by ♥ Sabine ♥ on September 5, 2009 at 4:44pm

nothing wrong with crying. it helps deal with stress, etc. crying is not a sign of weakness, it is an emotion, caused by pain, fear, happiness,love,hate...Woman are not scared of what their friends are going to think when they cry, Men are...Most men see crying as weakness for a man, but either way, male or female I see it as a sign of strength, Some people are sensitive and get very emotional very quickly and cry a lot, and then there are other people who are not, some people can handle their emotions well until a braking point and some people have no control over them. Crying is just proof of our existence, people have feelings and when those feelings are hurt, we need to let it out somehow. Women are not the only ones who cry, men cry too, they just don't do it as often, because well, it is called the "The male EGO" and they are tough and their to protect, they don't want anyone to know that sometimes they just need to cry as well..So come on boys let it out, we wont laugh at you, if anything we will just love you more.

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Permalink Reply by bikram on September 6, 2009 at 5:18pm

sabine,
i dont think its so simple...its so cliched to say that male ego prevents man from crying...or society wants man to act tough...maybe its true while shedding tears in public...but man cry less even in private too...i dont know whether its hormonal or what...man cant associate between their inner emotion and outer expression...i wish to know why?why its so easy for woman to bring a drop of tear into their eyes...and so difficult for a man...

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Permalink Reply by Karina on November 20, 2009 at 12:42am

JAJAJA You really think that guys aren't sensitive ...or is just a costume that hide the human being ?
Nature is something that people tend to machanize and control , but finally is really unpredictable and uncontrollable.

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