IS ROMANCE THE SAME AS HAVING SEX?

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Permalink Reply by Kimesha on August 27, 2008 at 3:45pm

Whispers of Pain

It is good that you do feel intimacy but your must remember, intimacy is normally understood to be a fore-runner of a sexual encounter. If your episodes of intimacy outweigh your urges to engage in sexual intercourse with your girlfriend, then I may want to ask you to look deep within yourself and see if there is something with which you are wrestling and come to terms with it. If it is something that you cannot discuss with her at this time, seek a sex therapist. By the way, you did not say what was your age because that may have much to do with your feelings.

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Permalink Reply by Viktor on September 3, 2008 at 8:16am

I think that "Love" (in the western idealistic interpretation/expectation) will find natural expression is intimacy and in sex. However sex can occur without intimacy or love. Having sex does not ensure (nor prove) love nor intimacy...but true intimacy will almost always include a sexual expression.

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Permalink Reply by Miriam on September 15, 2008 at 8:55am

It can be but I don't think it's necessarily is all the time.

Some people can completely detach themselves from the notion of intimacy/romance while having sex while others couldn't imagine having sex without the romance. I think it depends on the personality and expectations of the person. Not everyone is on the same page as you are about romance/sex, one prime example of that is casual sex without any strings attached or friends with benefits. But if that person (such as you) has any love or compassion for their significant other then, I think intimacy is being expressed through all your actions, it just can't be helped.

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Permalink Reply by blueeyedf8 on October 11, 2008 at 6:48am

To me, intimacy is vital to a relationship. It will help the relationship grow much deeper. You can have great sex with no relationship, but it is not easy to have a relationship with no intimacy.

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Permalink Reply by Corrina on November 20, 2008 at 3:36pm

Sex can happen without intimacy. Sad, but true.I have a couple I am very close friends with. They have an open relationship. Meaning, if one of them finds someone they want to have sex with they do it. To them it's just sex. However, you couldn't find two people more loyal to each other. They are there for each other 100% of the time. Their bond is like none I have ever seen before.There is no question that they love each other but it's not that young puppy love or that head over heals love. It's a love they gained making it through hard times together. A love gained through sharing life together. The other guys/girls they sleep with come and go but they stick together. I feel sorry for the person who tries to pull them apart.

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Permalink Reply by Curious on January 17, 2009 at 3:04am

Uhmm no those are two totally different things. I mean they both invovle sex but to me romance is more of a deeper connection beyond just the physical.

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Permalink Reply by Mimi on January 19, 2009 at 11:08pm

romance is intimacy of your souls.
you may share a certain way of looking at things or being amused about them.
but for me it is as well that certain attentiveness you have for each other, that certain look in each other´s eyes,
that certain tenderness......

thats the way i look at it.

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Permalink Reply by Atila Paton on May 6, 2009 at 5:35pm

Whispers of Pain, answering your question is quite easy because blatantly romance and sex are not the same thing, although media loves to change the meaning in order to avoid the most squeamish viewers to have a shock effect. If romance and sex were the same thing people would be quite sad after a late-night shag, bad sex can lead to depression but that is indeed a discussion for another time. You are right about intimacy and the glance part but it does not mean that sex is ruled out, I know lots of people who would agree with you but that ship has sailed to me. Romance is surely way deeper than merely a shag.

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Permalink Reply by Ciaran Bracken on June 14, 2009 at 12:10am

Romance is the opening of the exterior to expose the interior that is the feelings that you have for that person. A person who believes in romance has the opinion that love is for both man and woman who unite to form a relationship
that will subconsciously lead to an offspring that is the ultimate goal of a relationship which has the greater bond of having a mirror image of them. Sex is essentially for reproduction but does not always mean that they will be committed to that fact. The reason for the good feeling during sex is to have a bond between both man and woman and when the act is completed hormonally there is an attachment between them both. Due to this when you expose your gift of sexuality to a lot of people you may lose the feeling of a monogamous relationship to which it is intended and romance is not subject to those terms when abusing the act of love between a man and a woman.

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