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What's the line between flirting and a cyber affair?

Sometimes we may be innocently on the internet, pursuing our interest, when we meet somebody who is pursuing the same interest. We start talking, and finding out more and more, and it becomes a mild flirtation. Sometimes the question is, "What is the harm of mild flirtation and how do I know when it's actually more that a mild flirtation?" My answer is: "What are you doing flirting with someone who is not your partner?" Because there is a thrill that happens in those kind of interactions, and the problem is that it is like a match in a dry forest, and can evolve and burn into something else. Here are some signs that it is quickly turning from a flirtation into a cyber affair or a cyber sexual affair. Firstly, it is going be harder and harder to stay away from the computer. You're going to want more and more contact with this person. You may also be starting to fantasize about this person, wondering what they look like, and even fantasizing about meeting the person. Maybe you are starting to share, outside of your common interest, more and more about your personal life. You're also excluding your partner from this when the communication is developing into a cyber affair. You are not telling your beloved, your partner, your spouse about this little interaction. What is going to start happening is that once you get more addicted - yes, addicted - to this affair it will be harder to stop. You're going to want to chat more, you're going to want to maybe even talk to this person on the phone. You may want to meet the person. What happens during a cyber affair is that you are going to find yourself getting aroused by, or more and more attracted to, this phantom, and less attracted to your partner. These are all really dangerous signs that online flirting has gone too far, and it is time to stop.

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Permalink Reply by ♥ Sabine ♥ on September 16, 2009 at 6:42pm: My advice would be:

Get rid of him/her ¬ ¬

or

why not try flirting with other people and it might help you get him/her of your mind for a little while ^_^

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Permalink Reply by ♥ Sabine ♥ on September 17, 2009 at 3:48pm: One of my friends is being cruelly manipulated by an unscrupulous liar and via-net.
fortunately she already knows, because I sent an e-mail to her telling the absolute truth. now only depends on her to send for a tube that damn bastard.

and I think she will because I know her very well.SHE WILL. Lol =); ▶ Reply to This

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Permalink Reply by nalini on September 22, 2009 at 7:08pm: I guess it simply shows how isolated we are and how difficult we find it to share life with others physically present around us. But I feel 'addiction' to computer itself does not indicate cyber affair or even flirtation-the computer and internet just provides us with another source of social interaction. After all, we are social beings.; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by amhhh on September 26, 2009 at 11:19am: I think all of us r sick or mad about something wich we donno . for me i always seek something in spit of all the progress in my life . Internet is very good to pass the time only, in addition to work or our get real personal messages .not more than that , indeed i wonder if community sites could ever gather real persons ,let alone real friends or partner .; ▶ Reply to This