friendship between men and women

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Permalink Reply by LUIS on May 27, 2009 at 12:43am

Hello, is different an amistad that to be a lover since a friendship lasts the whole life in her good and in the bad ones but to have sex already is different if there is algun understood evil breaks this union.

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Permalink Reply by ♥ Sabine ♥ on May 27, 2009 at 6:08am

If men are from Mars and women are from Venus, it may explain at least one of their shared beliefs: Men and women can't be real friends. Blame the sexual tension that almost inevitably exists between any red-blooded, heterosexual man and woman. Point to the jealousy that plagues many rational people when a significant other befriends someone of the opposite sex. Boil it down to the inherent differences between the sexes. It just can't be done. Right?

You can be friends just untill one or both of you will cross “no sex line”. Many people think, that opposite sex friendship is hiding sexual intentions, or at least one of the friends (mostly men) is dreaming about it. In platonic love, there’s no sexual activity, but very often there is sexual attraction. I believe that sexual tension is unavoidable between heterosexual opposite sex friends.
The basics of friendship are interests and confidence, not gender. Mankind is thinking, that friendship with women is of a higher quality, they can express their own feelings not like with a man. Women like to have „pretended“ brothers, because with a male friend she can feel safe.
how can a man and a woman be just friends: “you should go sleep in one bed (only sleep, no sex). If you will sleep soundly, without any distractions – yes, you can be friends, but if not...
that's only one of the major barriers. to male-female friendship: defining it, dealing with sexual attraction, It's no wonder we expect that men and women are always on the road to romance.

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Permalink Reply by hiba on May 27, 2009 at 10:56am

Hi Sabine;

Thanks for your reply,realy you've lighten something which is very darck for me.
ALL OVER MY EXPERIENCE, friendship between men and women can exist only if there are established barriers ,it is said that a friend is a confident ;so please imagine that a man or a woman who can trust or tell every thing to their opposite sex friend are bound to be attracted to one another,to become a confident each one must tell every thing to each other ,and if you are not personally involved in her stories ,of course ,you will be a good listner ,a caring and trusting person …something always happened …..if at that moment in time she is in no relationship,she might consider you as a good example for a good partner ;in another way if she is already engaged or married ,she will undoubtedly start to compare you with her partner ,and at that exact time this relation will have a tendency to love ,and you will become no longer her friend but her beloved.

The problem with momen and some thing which is very natural and makes from us a woman is that we are unfortunately attached emotionally to all people and all the situations ,but men couldn’t be involved emotionally in the same way as women,this is why friendship without barriers can be risky.

It is much easier to know a woman when she is your best friend than to know her when you are her boyfriend.

In order to keep a friend of the opposite sex…. a “friend”you must not tell him or her things you may not tell to your sisters brothers or partner and this is exactly what I call barriers .



Go back to my point of view friendship between men and women does not exist


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Permalink Reply by ♥ Sabine ♥ on May 27, 2009 at 2:17pm

A lot of men/women, we meet in our life. We dislike some of them. We ignore the most of them. We also love some of them.
But what about remaining? Aren't they our friends?
And love is also a part of friendship. You can't love a person, whom you think is your enemy.

It can happen but usually there is sexual tension. However you can be friends if you make a vow not to cross the boundaries that are set forth. Sex will screw up a friendship. A man and a woman can be associates but friends would be pushing it. Most male friends either want to have sex with you, have had sex with you, or you want to have sex with.
of course...we are the two sides of a balanced structure--not solely for the purpose of procreation...some, maybe not many, but some have evolved past that need-to-breed mind-set for the sake of numbers, and do enjoy the companies of their realm of humans, of which some become very close...friendship cares not of gender, or culture, or sexual preference, or anything so ridiculous--at least not 'real' friendship.
And then, if you've really evolved to understanding each person's right to living their life...
It does, but it is difficult to keep it that way, and so in many cases the nature of the relationship changes or the friendship ends.
things are no longer as they used to be when sexual attraction always involved.....
Friendship may still exist.
That's just my theory. :-))

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Permalink Reply by be good twice on May 28, 2009 at 2:32pm

Hi. Why not. Being a man or being a woman is just being a human. I think no reason no human. Reason is not divided into men's or women's one I suppose. So we are all equal in reason. If freindship can be only between equal creatures I would to say 'yes' -- people of different genders could be friends.
Sex is not a problem there. If you don't lay on it something big and unbearable. It's just a part of relation which one could be good or could be bad in order of your life and mind.
Big problem in what we call 'love' is that this relation usually isn't 'love' but a part of consumption. Bad relations make us tying but love must make us free. So how could it be that freedom can be bad for friendship? Resume: we can have friendship with love, without love, with sex or without it. Or we can have no friendship with sex or without it. No friendship is a cause for no love (I don't mean a plane consumption).

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Permalink Reply by nalini on July 1, 2009 at 7:10am

Of course, men and women can be good friends, without a notion of 'other kind' of love. When I was in the faculty I used to hang around with two guys all the time. We dined together, we laughed together, we studied together, we went on trips together. We helped each other in relationships and other problems. Later on when I started to work I met more male friends who were just that-friends. I think people can have a good time together if they are friends, rather than lovers.

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