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Is a Soul Mate or Ideal Relationship really possible?

I think maybe I am doomed to suck at relationships.

Am I just a hopeless romantic in thinking that a "Soul Mate" or "Perfect Match" for me is really out there?

I just got out of a "relationship" and I use that term lightly, with my best friend turned lover. Here I was with someone that I could see myself with for years and years and maybe even "forever" with, and he breaks my heart.

So even if you think your finally dead on with someone, you click on every level, have amazing conversations, etc....is anything ever really secure? What makes a relationship timeless and able to stand up to all forms of stress and anxiety towards commitment?

I was married for 3 years and with the person for a total of 7....somehow throughout most of that I knew I didn't want to be with him "forever." But the relationship that just ended......now that was someone I really loved....so even if we think we have found our soul mate without a doubt....sometimes those relationship end horribly.

I guess bottom line: Is there really that "Special" someone for each of us? And if so, fate and karma aside how do we seek and find that person?

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Permalink Reply by Wayne on October 25, 2008 at 6:06am: There is no such thing as perfect whenever a human being is involved. I think that's just a law of nature we must always keep in mind. I think there are in fact many "special someone's" out there for each of us, each one as unique and priceless as we are. The only way of finding one of those individuals is never close one's mind or one's eyes to the possibilities presented to us each and every day. Cheers!; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by nalini on October 25, 2008 at 6:31am: I'd like to think that an ideal relationship is possible but I simply have no idea how to find that special someone. Most people around me seem to have settled for something less.; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Tenusha on October 31, 2008 at 12:58pm: i have no experience in love relationships but would still like to respond to your statement.
According to me,doubt is what makes things fall apart. and by truly believing in something,you end up getting it.whether it be a relationship or something else.
an ideal relationship may exist,but the people involved in it have to contribute.what you see as ideal may not be the perfect relationship to someone else..
i wish you all the best and ask you to look forward.; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Zimah on November 1, 2008 at 3:20pm: Something to share with you..; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by LowYenSoom on November 9, 2008 at 5:01am: Human will never be perfect.but i believe there were 1 which is suitable for him/her, either the 1 he/she.maybe we will be confuse about who will be the one?but i don't think seeking is required. i mean life is funny, sometimes thing just came to us.but everytime it came, we have to make choices, under a careful observation and inference.finding for 1?hmmm, it will come.what we can do is just wait.

Karma never failed to amaze us, but we failed it for sure; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by swe on April 1, 2009 at 2:25pm: "Karma never failed to amaze us, but we failed it for sure" -

yes:))... And waiting is absolutely required sometimes, no matters how long it would be...; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Corrina on December 28, 2008 at 12:55pm: I think, like most human's, we try too hard to find that perfect someone instead of letting them come to us. We try to form people into what we think our perfect partner is only to have it backfire on us in the long run. I'm just as guilty of it as all the other people I know. So, instead of getting my heart broken everytime I turned around because Mr. Perfect turned out to be Mr. Wrong I stopped looking for Mr. Perfect. Sence that time I have meet some of the nicest guys I have ever had the pleasure of dating. I have also been on some of the most memorable dates sence that point. So, as far as I'm concerned Mr. Perfect can wait. I'm sure he'll show up when he is good and ready. Until then, I'm enjoying life.; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Thassan on March 11, 2009 at 5:14pm

This is so true, You attract in what you feel about your self.
Attraction is the law and key

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Permalink Reply by Melanie Warren on March 17, 2009 at 6:22pm: yes i agree with U T; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Emina on April 12, 2009 at 4:17am: Sean there's a book called "The Secret" that's where he gets it from.. I'm surprised you haven't heard about it, it was spoken about it even on the Oprah show..; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by shesbreathing on December 29, 2008 at 12:52pm: yeah, talk to that man up there ;-)

he will really let you feel hopeless and positive all the time, not to mention, challenged. ;-)

(kidding aside) ;-), let's term that ideal relationship as a long lasting relationship. It is possible because i myself have witnessed couples who have lived with each other for the rest of their lives. i believe, and most people also do, that there are many factors that may help or destroy a couple's relationship. Understanding, communication are just some of the main ingredients for a relationship to stay long. Of course, the opposites destroy it. Add to that, I also believe that your relationship must be fully built with faith- in God and in your partner.

I suggest, you read this book, "let me be a woman" by elizabeth eliot. You'll find more enlightenment there.

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Permalink Reply by shesbreathing on December 30, 2008 at 7:07am: really? how silly? if you believe in that man up there, I'd suggest you shouldn't believe in "god" anymore! lol! ;-p

anyway, if you don't want to get my advice, just try reading that book i suggested. You'll see what a woman is really worth, or how much..

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